{"id":39543,"date":"2022-07-05T06:18:27","date_gmt":"2022-07-04T23:18:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.princess-it-foundation.org\/pbl\/?p=39543"},"modified":"2022-07-05T06:21:55","modified_gmt":"2022-07-04T23:21:55","slug":"im-going-through-very-similar-times-with-my-wife-4","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.princess-it.org\/pbl\/?p=39543","title":{"rendered":"I\u2019m going through very similar times with my wife, and I\u2019m glad you are talking about it"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><title>I\u2019m going through very similar times with my wife, and I\u2019m glad you are talking about it<\/title><\/p>\n<h2>My husband started to change many years ago, suttle things, shaving<\/h2>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know what to say other than I hope your spouse loves you as much as you lover your spouse. It is okay to be afraid. And I&#8217;m sure glad you are expressing this. Keep supporting her, and keep looking out for your own emotions too. I wish you the best, and hope you are doing well.<\/p>\n<p>Hi all, I feel the best way to describe how I feel is that I feel very raw, like a fresh wound&#8230;just having found out my husband is transgender &#8230;. I am married to my soulmate, best friend and wonderful father to our blended family of seven. We&#8217;ve been married for 18 years. .arms, legs etc just one thing at a time. He said he didn&#8217;t like to be hairy anymore. Then the hair, kept getting longer and he wouldn&#8217;t cut it. The streaked..he was once black..over time its now long and blonde! Then came the hormone patches&#8230;I still had no idea. I <a href=\"https:\/\/installmentloansindiana.org\/cities\/geneva\/\">installment loan stores in Geneva<\/a> believed him. I asked him just over a year ago about the patches and what the follow up was. The patches had caused breasts.<!--more--> He said still on the patches waiting for a consultant appointment BUT that he felt he liked some of the side effects of the patches, the way it made him feel. I was in denial, I didn&#8217;t want to know more. Now over a year later he has been working away a lot over the last year..one or two days every week or two&#8230; He sent me a text message last week, very garbled but basically saying the conference he was attending he was going as a woman. The people he had been working with knew him as a transgender MTF. He said please forgive him and he loved me. So where to from here&#8230; As I said at the start he&#8217;s really my world. I love the MAN from before last week. Men&#8217;s clothes, masculine, man who looked after me. Today, I have two teenage son&#8217;s living at home. They go to a all boys school. I work in the hospital, its a small community. I grieve for my husband. I want him back. I&#8217;ve read extensively this evening&#8230; I know its huge for him to \u2018come out&#8217; in public as he has. I can&#8217;t at the moment, think about calling him a \u2018her&#8217;, calling him his female name, think of going out in public and yes I do think about our sex life, although this has been very little for a while&#8230; I wish I could turn the clock back, I don&#8217;t know what to do next, how to live without the love of my life&#8230;.. If we separated I&#8217;d be lost without him&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>I just want to add..I&#8217;m 46 and my husband is 56 yrs old. He has been married before, and as I said before we have children. He said this has been evolving, it wasn&#8217;t always there. So I suppose this comes under Gender identity disorder (GID), also known as gender dysphoria&#8230; but I still don&#8217;t understand how its only come about in the last maybe 10 or less years.<\/p>\n<h2>The hormone patches he told me were because of testicular pain and they would help<\/h2>\n<p>Kia ora Is it something in the water in NZ? I reckon at least three of my male friends are trans; only one is out. My partner is trans and not out yet, but it won&#8217;t be long!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019m going through very similar times with my wife, and I\u2019m glad you are talking about it My husband started to change many years ago, suttle things, shaving I don&#8217;t know what to say other than I hope your spouse loves you as much as you lover your spouse. 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